If you’re getting divorced as a parent, the process of determining how you split custody can be exhausting. Assuming that you use joint custody, which happens in most cases, you’re only going to get to spend part of your time with your child, and you’ll have to share that time with your ex. There are a lot of details to figure out, such as what schedule to use, when to do the exchanges and how to set things up so that your child still has routine and structure in their life.

However, while working on all of this, it’s important to keep your eyes on the positive side of things. One of the big benefits is that you are now going to get more one-on-one time with your child, and that can be huge for your relationship.

It gives you a chance to bond in a way that you could never have otherwise, and that can help the two of you be closer than ever. Researchers note that this helps with child development and can create a relationship that is “warm, involved and communicative.” It’s not that you can’t get this in a larger group setting, but that one-on-one time really helps to push it in that direction. Your child also learns to count on you and the two of you can connect on a deeper level. You’re really engaged the entire time because there is nothing else to take away that attention.

By looking at the positives, divorce can often feel easier and more beneficial to your life. Make sure you are aware of the rights you have as a parent to create the ideal custody situation.